Being a good friend sometimes entails going above and beyond to help someone. But what happens if you’re being a good friend and the other person doesn’t appear to value you or your time? Here’s an example of a woman who found herself in a difficult situation when a friend decided to do her a favor but refused to show her the necessary respect.

I received an invitation to a baby shower from a friend I hadn’t seen in years. She went to another state, but it appears she has returned and is now hosting her baby shower here. I was really excited because I hadn’t seen her in a long time. She created a group with all of the mutuals she invited, revealing that it would be a fast and tiny one—she had just found out she was pregnant at 35 weeks, with an induction set for the 37th week.

We all started volunteering to take on different responsibilities for the baby shower. I offered to cook Filipino food and help pay for part of the decor. I gave money to my friend who was in charge of decorating. I also asked the Mom-To-Be how many others were invited besides the ladies in the group chat. She told me 15. There were ten of us in the group, so I decided to cook for fifty to be safe in case she invited a few more.

I began shopping for ingredients. I began preparing and coordinating with the decor lady. We determined where we wanted the food and snacking table and informed the mother-to-be. She agreed. Soon, it was the day before the baby shower, and I spent the entire day cooking while taking a day off from work. I only work part-time because I am the primary caretaker for my infant while my boyfriend works.

Mind you, I had to arrange for my mother-in-law to monitor my infant while I cooked and attend the baby shower. I didn’t want to bring my infant because I’d be occupied with the catering. She was lucky to be off those days. Then, the night before, she texted me saying she needed to’make some hard decisions’ and ‘uninvite me’. She also stated that she still ‘wanted’ me to drop off the food.

I explained that while I understood and respected her decision, I would not be dropping off the meal. She inquired why, and I explained that it made no sense for me to drive 75 minutes to drop off food at an event to which I was no longer invited. The only reason I offered was that I was invited. She inquired how she was going to find someone to cater with such short notice and that it was disrespectful to me.

A few friends sided with her, but the majority supported me. I’d like to know from a stranger’s perspective if I made a mistake here. Everyone believed the OP was blameless in this situation.