Correcting your loved one for their wrongdoing is important and it does not mean you love them less. Instead you love them more for wanting them to be a better person. Read this story and let us know what you think about this whole situation.
My mom has late-stage Alzheimer’s and has been unable to manage her money and needs around-the-clock care. It probably would be safer to put her in a nursing home but she made us promise to only do that as a last resort.
Thankfully she had a lot of investments and savings from my dad before he passed so we can get her a hired personal carer in her own home. My sister is the one who lives the closest and visits her often so she handles mom’s finances!
We give my sister $200/month each for her to run errands and help look after mom since we both live out of state. My other sister called me to tell me there’s been a lot of cash withdrawals recently on my mom’s card. I check and there’s nearly a year’s worth of $3-400s withdrawn.
We call my sister who is handling finances and she is confused and says she never takes out any cash, she only pays bills with the bank card and uses cc for the groceries, etc. She freezes the bank card and I take red-eye over.
Long story short we asked the bank where the atm withdrawal happened. My sister looks amazed when she Googles the location and realizes it’s close to her son’s school. We waited until the son got home and asked him where he worked and he said a local restaurant.
We said we would like to go with him to the restaurant to confirm he works there and he got really panicked and said the management just changed so they wouldn’t know him. I ask for his paycheck and finally, he gives up and admits he doesn’t have a job.
My sister asked him where the money for the new stuff he bought home comes from and he admits he steals the bank card to make cash withdrawals. I asked him where he got the pin and my sister confessed she writes her pins on sticky notes so she doesn’t forget them I take the bank statements and calculate that he owns $14,308.
I told him he had to give it back right away or I’d file a theft report against him, and my sister begged me not to tell him that if he had anything on his record, he might not be able to attend college. I promised her I wouldn’t if she paid it, but she said she was having financial difficulties and didn’t have the funds (she’s a single mother).
I told her it wasn’t good enough, and she complained that her kid is just 16 and doesn’t understand what’s going on. I informed her that while a 16-year-old won’t go to jail, he might do it again as an adult, so it’s best to learn his lesson now.
She said we could just deduct that from her son’s inheritance from our mother, and I yelled at her that if our mother was in a position to judge, she would have written him out of her will for this.
I call up my lawyer and ask what I should do and he suggests filing a police report but not including my nephew’s name just yet. I did just that and my sister is screaming at me that I’m ruining her son’s life by involving the police and he’s only a kid.
I’m not happy about it but at 16 if he’s stealing from his own grandma who looked after him when his mom was sick I can’t imagine what he’s going to do when he’s older. What would you do in his situation? Any advice.