A mother has revealed that she no longer trusts her mother-in-law after she heard what she was telling her 10-month-old daughter. The 31-year-old mother explained that she was getting along with her mother-in-law until she started bugging them about getting their daughter’s ears pierced. She told her mother-in-law that her baby wouldn’t be getting her ears pierced until she’s old enough to ask for it but her MIL called her a ‘hypocrite.’

The mother took to Reddit and wrote: “My own mother wouldn’t let me even get my earlobes pierced until I was 10, but my mother-in-law had both had both my sister-in-laws’ ears pierced when they were tiny, and she keeps going on about how ‘it’s better because they won’t remember it.’ “J (her husband) says he supports whatever decision I make on the matter because I’m the one who would have to clean it, as I stay home with C (her daughter) while he works full time.”

She thought the problem had been resolved until she overheard her mother-in-law conversing with C a few weeks ago. “As I was walking down the stairs, I overheard my mother-in-law telling C that ‘they’re going to go out shopping and get her some nice earrings.'” “I went into the room and told her flatly that that was not going to happen, and if I couldn’t trust her to respect my judgments concerning my own kid, I would find someone else to care about her,” she explained.

She went on to say that she was compelled to ask her sister to babysit her daughter. “Now my mother-in-law keeps trying to arrange for her to stay for a few hours, and she even offered to keep her overnight so J and I could go out, but I declined.” I told her she could come and see her, but I didn’t trust her not to get her ears pierced behind my back, so she’d be seeing her unattended.”

According to the mother, her husband and sister-in-law believe she is overreacting, so she is now asking others if her actions were justifiable. “Of course, her children believe you’re overreacting; they were raised by this human bulldozer and don’t know any different,” one Reddit user said. Their opinions on boundaries are untrustworthy.

“Also, the idea that your husband defers to you because you would be solely responsible for the care and cleaning just because you stay home? Like… is he incapable of holding a Q-tip between the hours of 6 and 8 pm? She is his daughter, too, and he absolutely has a vested interest in whether his mother goes behind both of your backs to do this.”