My fiancè (37M) and I (33F) got engaged a few months ago. We’re getting married soon and invitations were already sent out. right now we’re focusing on much smaller details. We’ve also been busy moving into the new home that we purchased together (30% of his savings + 70% of mine)!

I have to say that saving up for this house took most of my savings and prevented me from enjoying the things I love spending money on. My fiancè sat me down yesterday to talk about his ‘groom speech’.

He talked about a few points but what made me upset was when he asked if I would be okay if he mentioned the house we bought and said that HE was the one who bought it. I was a bit taken aback, I asked why and he said it’s “just a confidence boost” during the speech and that’s it.

I stated that I was uncomfortable with the concept because I believe it is unjust not to appreciate the fact that I had sacrificed so much to be able to purchase the house. I reminded him of my contribution, but he said it doesn’t matter because it’s our house, therefore it shouldn’t matter if he stated he bought it himself or we both did.

I refused because people would always believe he bought the house, which would never change no matter how hard I tried to establish that I contributed 70%. He became enraged and stated that I was overthinking the situation and making a huge deal out of it.

We got into a disagreement, and he started ranting that it’s only one favor he’s asking me to do, while I’m making this silly, minor request for my hill to die on.

He’s basically sulking, and now he’s out and refusing to answer my calls, so he’s effectively begun the silent treatment until I cave in. Is it a Jerk of mine to make this my hill to die on?