There can be a lot of trouble in relationships, and money is one of the most common reasons for that. Some people think that when you’re in a relationship, you have to share everything, right down to your bank account information and more. But that’s not a very smart choice in the world we live in now, where it’s so easy to misuse that information. Unfortunately, u/Disces1433 is seeing it for himself…
According to her story on the popular subreddit AITA (Am I The A**hole? ), it’s actually a lot worse for her. She might need to start worrying about all the things she has already told her “partner.” “I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months,” she says as a short introduction to her story. He is a single dad with three kids. We get along pretty well about almost everything. Since we don’t live together, we’d take turns inviting each other out every week.
She also says that the BF has occasionally asked her to buy something for the kids. But since it only pays between $30 and $60, she never said no. She also says in the end that she loves the kids a lot. A sudden “emergency” is the start of the problem: “He called me the other day while I was at work. He seemed to be in a hurry. He said he had just found the gaming device he had been looking for for so long and wanted to buy it for his oldest son.
I asked what this had to do with me, and he said he needed $300 because he was short on cash. He asked me to give him the $300, and I wasn’t sure at first, but then I did. He asked for my bank account information so he could get the money, but I wouldn’t give it to him. Instead, I told him to wait for me until I got there. He insisted and said he would take care of it. All I had to do was give him my bank account information when the call was over.
This kind of insistence would worry anyone, and OP was no different. At the end of the phone call, BF got very angry and loud with OP because she wouldn’t give him her bank information. “He asked why I didn’t just give him my account information so he could get the money we agreed on. I told him that I don’t like giving out my personal information, especially when it comes to money. He was angry and said, “I’m not just anyone, I’m your f-ing partner!”
Then he went on a rant about how he didn’t pay for the gaming device after looking for it for so long, and now his kid is mad at him, and it’s my fault.” In the end, he left in a huff and demanded that OP apologize to both him and his son. But when OP went to talk to them both, he found out something scary: “…it turns out that the gaming device thing was a lie. He needed the money for something else, like helping one of his friends fix his car.
When he admitted it and said he had to lie and make it about his kids to get me to lend him the money, I was shocked. You can imagine how I felt after that. I just lost it at him and left before he could say anything. He tried to call me (and is still trying), but I told him I need time to think about what happened and rethink our relationship. At the end of the post, the OP says that she needed some space and time to think about her relationship with the BF again. A very smart move, if we do say so ourselves. The Reddit community pretty much had the same reaction as OP: the OP was NTA at all. In fact, they are worried that the OP will be used badly: