Do you ever question whether your partner, family member, or friend merits you? We all know that no romantic or platonic relationship is actually flawless, and that everyone experiences severe issues in their connection.But how do you tell what’s a typical relationship issue and what’s a sign that someone doesn’t deserve you? THESE ARE 5 INDICATORS THAT THEY DO NOT DESERVE YOU:

1. THEY TELL YOU LIES AND CHEAT ON YOU They betray your trust and lie to you. They never tell you where they’re going or who they’re going to see. They are leading two lives and relying on you to support one of them. They lie to you because you don’t matter to them. They are just important to themselves. Everyone else is to be utilized and discarded to promote their enjoyment. They do not love you enough to be honest with you, nor do they care enough to terminate one relationship before beginning another.

2. THEY ARE TAKERS, NOT GIVERS. To some extent, people in a mutually loving relationship are givers. They give their partners their time, resources, affection, and space. Everyone is taken care of and pleased when there is a giver. With a taker, just one partner gives everything while the other partner mooches off them. They take in resources and give nothing back, much like a black hole.

With them, it’s a one-way street. It’s either their way or the highway for them. You require someone who can accept you as an individual with your own desires, emotions, and requirements. You need someone who contributes more to the relationship than they take away. 3. THEY FRAUD YOU. They are so preoccupied with their own life and interests that you are unimportant in their world. Most of the time, they keep that to themselves.

When they are emotionally unstable or disturbed, their lack of regard manifests itself in disparaging remarks. It’s one thing to tease your spouse and be teased in return, but when the comments are malicious and intended to hurt you, it’s time to leave. Someone who loves and respects you is not going to tear you down, and they would never do it in front of others. A black hole, on the other hand, will tear you apart and break you down because that is what they do.

4. THEY CANNOT BE TRUSTED. They cannot be relied on to help you or to be present when and where they are meant to be. These black holes exist in their own world and are unable to see beyond their own huge ego. They will forget crucial dates. Because they are engrossed in their own world, they will miss key events such as your children’s sporting events or plays. They will not be there for you if you need them since it is inconvenient for them.

You require someone you can rely on to be present when it counts. Why can’t they be there for you if you’re there for them? 5. THEY ARE MORE SELFISH THAN TEAM-ORIENTED. You are a group. You will either succeed or fail as a group. If one team member wins, the team as a whole wins. We perform as individuals but win as a team, or so it should be. For a reason, a black hole is referred to as a singularity. Nothing can go too close to them without being destroyed.

These people are so self-centered that they need to win to boost their own ego – an ego so fragile that it can’t take seeing someone else succeed, even if it’s their significant other. You need someone who is pulling in the same direction as you and is willing to put in the work to see the team succeed, even if it means taking no credit. The agony became severe near the end, I couldn’t have an epidural owing to a heart ailment, and I felt like I was going to pass out from the discomfort.

‘Jesus fucking Christ,’ I said during a terrible contraction. ‘Please don’t use the Lord’s name in vain,’ my doctor remarked to me. I promptly replied, “Go fuck yourself.” For the rest of the birth, my doctor didn’t say much. After that, my husband suggested that I apologize. I didn’t, but now that I think about it, I should have. I feel terrible and am thinking about sending an apology note to the hospital.

What did I say, AITA?” Many of us who have been through terrible and stressful situations may appreciate how the woman must have felt at the time. At the same time, the doctor’s point of view is simple to grasp.