A woman didn’t like how her in-laws made it sound like she and her husband had to pay for their meals, even though they had invited them to dinner. The woman said something that made her in-laws look bad without meaning to.When you cook a nice meal for your family, especially for a special event, it makes you feel good. But a woman on Reddit said that her in-laws took advantage of her and her husband’s kindness and always thought they would pay the bill.
She was made to look like the rude daughter-in-law when she finally brought it up. Luckily, she was still able to save the relationship.A woman who is 37 years old and her husband who is 40 years old like to eat out and call themselves “amateur foodies.” Luckily, they have access to tools that let them enjoy eating at unique restaurants. Every three to four months, they ask their in-laws to join them. Since they are the ones inviting their parents, the couple also pays for their meals. But the actions of the woman’s in-laws may have given them a different idea.
Her in-laws once asked them to go to a restaurant. It was a new place for the couple to try, and it was close to their parents’ house. The woman didn’t think anything of it because she thought her in-laws were just interested in trying new foods with her. The wife’s mother-in-law got the bill after dinner and gave it to the wife’s husband right away, without looking at the price. The husband was shocked, but he still paid for the cheap food without saying anything. The woman also didn’t say what she was thinking.
But her in-laws asked them again, this time to a fancier, more expensive restaurant. Since they had eaten there before, everyone knew what the prices were like. Once more, her mother-in-law gave the bill to her husband without him knowing. This time, the woman knew what her mother-in-law was doing and didn’t like it. She said after a while that her in-laws always let them pay the bill.
One day, the woman’s husband told his mom about something his wife had done at work that earned her an award. Right away, the mother-in-law suggested that they have the party at a very fancy restaurant. The woman asked, “Who’s paying?” when her husband told her about the plan while they were still on the phone. She talked about: “He cut the call short and was rude to me.” We shouldn’t have to pay every time his parents wanted to go to dinner, I told him. Plus, I told him that they were using my award (which wasn’t a big deal at all) to get a fancy night out.
Because they were able to pay for all the meals, her husband said, their in-laws couldn’t. The woman’s comment made her in-laws feel bad because it seemed like they were taking advantage of their son’s money. The men wanted the woman to say sorry and make things right. To keep things calm, her husband offered that they just eat at the restaurant where his parents wanted to go.
Instead, she advised that for his parents’ anniversary, they go to a fancy restaurant. However, the in-laws were already hungry and thought it would be rude to split the price.People who read the woman’s Reddit post left comments, and many of them agreed with her. Afterward, she made it clear that her husband had apologized and understood that his parents’ demand for dinners at their cost was wrong. He also said that he felt trapped at the time and acted in a panicked way.
As their son, the woman’s husband dealt with his parents’ sense of privilege, and the woman said she was sorry for making them feel bad. The dinner, on the other hand, was agreed to be put off until the anniversary. The couple still had their three-monthly dinner with their in-laws, but they turned down invitations to other events. Do you believe the woman was right to refuse to pay for her in-laws’ meals? Or should she have bought them? What would you do if you were the woman?