Divorce is a difficult and unpleasant process for everyone involved, and it rarely runs smoothly or amicably. The protagonist of our story discovered this via personal experience: he opted to leave his marriage with his wife, and his kid resented him for it. However, after a few years, the child apologized, but the father was not pleased at all.

Here’s how the man characterized the situation: “My ex-wife and I (45 years old) met when we were teenagers. We married at 21, and had our kid at 22. After our son was born, we gradually began to drift apart. When our son was around 11 or 12, I decided to end my marriage. I’m not sure why, but my wife was astonished. We’d had a dead bedroom for approximately four years by that point and hadn’t had any deep discussions in about the same amount of time.

I was just finished. It took me about a week to move out, and throughout that time, my ex cried constantly, imploring me to stay. But I held my ground. My son was furious with me and refused to talk to me at all. I understand why. In his view, I was harming his mother. When I moved out, he refused to see me again. I tried hard and came to see him daily, but he always said he despised me and ran to his room. “I was devastated.

“The divorce was completed in around a year. Custody was set for 50/50. We put my son in treatment, but it didn’t help. He despised my guts to the core. I never intended to push him to come to my place. I could, but I didn’t want him to resent me any more. I still wanted to be there for him; I went to his games and sent him birthday and Christmas gifts, but he completely shut me away.

The last thing he told me was that he no longer wants me to attend his gatherings. I went to my ex’s place a few times, but she always said he didn’t want to see me and she wouldn’t force him. At this point, I was cut off entirely. I found myself on a long dark path of depression and sorrow. It was like if my son had died.

The low time of my life. But one day, I awoke and was completely done. I rebounded and have since moved on. “I met my wife, and we have two beautiful children.” “Life felt great again. Until approximately a year ago, I received an email from my son. He apologized for everything. That he recently had a child and began to ponder, realizing how cruel he was to me. He wanted to reconnect and be a part of my life again. There was a lot more in the email, which I don’t want to post for privacy concerns.

I didn’t feel anything while reading this email. I did not respond. Since then, he has sent approximately 15 emails explaining his life and his child. I never responded, but I felt I owed him some form of closure. I haven’t sent it yet. It goes: Dear Son, I’d appreciate it if you could quit sending me emails. I went through hell and back to get to this place in my life.

I have a family again, and I am quite happy right now. I understand you have regrets and guilt about the past, but I have no anger for you and forgive you. Bringing you back into my life will cause issues that I am unwilling to confront for my own or my family’s sake. I just can’t offer you what you want. I do not want any additional contact. I hope you understand, and I wish you the best in your life.

Goodbye.””I haven’t sent anything yet, but I have finally told my wife what’s occurring. She read all of the emails and my draft and was appalled. She implored me not to mail it and to expose my heart to him. We argued, and a demand for a therapist arose. She even informed my parents, and my mother went nuclear. She began berating me as if I were a tiny kid again.

I’m not sure why she doesn’t comprehend. She was with me the entire time and saw all I went through. Finally, she warned me that if I did this to him, she would do the same to me. I was speechless. I am not even sure what I’m looking for here. I read similar stories here, and many of the comments were negative against people in my position. I do not know. Maybe I’m a nasty person and need to hear it.”

After facing more than 10 thousand angry comments under his post, the man seemed to have a change of heart. Here is what he wrote, “I see now that I should look at his actions from a child’s perspective. I already have therapy scheduled for today.

I deleted the draft and somehow reluctantly agreed that my mother write him an email to establish contact. She loves my son very much and was shut off, just like me. It means everything in the world to have her grandson back in our lives. I will discuss with my therapist if that is the right way to go.

Contrary to popular belief, my wife and mother don’t see me as a monster. I’m not getting divorced anytime soon. The three of us had a very emotional discussion, and I know they were just trying to help me. Things were said in the heat of the moment, but all is well between us now. We will see how the future unfolds.”

We hope that this man will be able to reconcile with his son. The positive thing is that sometimes there are ways to prevent a breakup, and this article offers some tips from a divorce lawyer on how to avoid becoming their client.