It is critical to form a life-long partnership. If your prospective spouse is not treating you with the respect you deserve, you may as well end the relationship. Here are some unwavering principles 1. You feel individuals should be treated in a certain manner. You hold strong opinions about how you and others should be treated. When you see abuse, never make a compromise.

Let’s imagine he mistreats a waitress while acting like a “perfect gentleman” with you. Will he be that way in a year or two, when he feels more at ease with you? You may become his next target 2. You want to make a difference. If he doesn’t understand why you need to spend so much time at work or help others, red flags should go up. The deepest part of you wants to help others, and if he doesn’t appreciate it, reconsider your relationship.

Do not let him make you feel bad about the things you care about 3. Your friends and family, of course. If anything they do isn’t good enough for him or—as he attempts to persuade you—”for YOU,” distance yourself from him. A partnership should expand rather than contract your circle of loved ones.

4. Lack of self-respect. He follows a set of rules. Everyone has them to some extent. But he’s constantly assessing whether he’s falling short or meeting an unrealistic standard. Pay attention: he may eventually come around to judging you in the same manner. You don’t want to spend your life attempting to leap through impossible hoops.