Cheating may be an extremely terrible experience, and no one wants to go through it. Exaggerated expectations, falling out of love, or low self-esteem are all common causes of marriage breakdown, and they continue to be the leading cause of divorce. One man recently discovered that his wife had a large skeleton in the closet, and despite being blissfully married for 20 years, the desperate man cannot forgive her to this day.

A 43-year-old man has written to Reddit seeking consolation and help from non-indifferent people. He and his wife, 44, have been happily married for 20 years. The man narrated his narrative, noting that he and his then-wife-to-be began dating in high school when he was a junior and she was a senior. They lived a significant way apart during his wife’s first two years of college while he was in high school.

They both attended community college for one year before enrolling in college in the same city for another year. They’ve been living together since then. The pair married the summer after the male graduated college. Their marriage has been going well for both of them thus far, at least according to the man. He recently chose to begin the divorce process since he discovered that his wife had been unfaithful to him with many other men, and the period during which this occurred was the most devastating revelation for him.

The terrible information was exposed during a normal meal with friends. One day, shortly after Christmas, the spouses decided to meet with a few friends of the man’s wife who had known her since they were in college. They all meant to catch up, eat dinner, and hang out. They discussed a variety of topics while in one other’s company, and the man’s wife said that they met in high school.

Her former college buddy thought it was bizarre that they met in high school, had a few wild years in college, and then ended up together. The man played along, saying he didn’t know if his wife was as insane as he was. The roommate began to narrate a story, but the man’s wife abruptly interrupted and stated that she was uncomfortable with it.

The man said that he suspected something was wrong, so he revealed that they began dating in high school and remained together throughout his wife’s college years. All of his wife’s friends became very silent, and the rest of the evening was unpleasant. On the way out, one of her other roommates approached the man and suggested he have “an honest conversation” about what happened in college.

He questioned his wife on the way home, and she took him completely by surprise. She stated that the facts of their college experiences were unimportant. When the couple returned home, the guy informed his wife that he would be staying at his brother’s house until she was ready to discuss what happened in college. The next day, the woman came over and admitting to cheating on her spouse with “several” men throughout her first two years of college.

She stated she didn’t think it was a big problem at the time because they were far apart, and she didn’t think a high school romance would continue. The man pressed for more information, and she revealed it was at least ten different men, including three individuals she introduced to him as friends when he came to visit on weekends, as well as one guy she was still in touch with. The man promptly decided to file for divorce and planned to begin the process as soon as possible.

Many people are now urging him that he should not abandon his marriage over a few faults. However, the man is adamant that cheating on him with several men over years is unacceptable, regardless of when it occurred. And the fact that she continued to have connections with these individuals right in front of him was an unforgivable display of disdain. The couple has two children, but they are 17 and 19, and the man believes the children will understand why he needs to quit the marriage.