Most women consider who their bridesmaids will be well before they marry. One bride chose her cousin for this important duty, only to discover that this individual, who has lately begun seeing the bride’s ex, intends to bring him as her guest on the big day.”My cousin is currently dating my ex, with whom I parted ways peacefully. Although I no longer have feelings for him, I do not want him at my wedding, which is really important to me.

I don’t want him to be overwhelmed the happiness of the event. Furthermore, their relationship is still very fresh, and I’m concerned that if they break up, my cousin will be relieved that he’s not in any of the images.” “When my cousin asked if she could bring her boyfriend as a plus one, I told her no. She felt agitated and attempted to explain her case. Feeling furious, I finally informed her that if she persisted on having him present, I would rather she not be there at all. She is now angry with me.

I understand where my cousin is coming from, but I believe she is not considering my sentiments or those of my partner, whom I must also consider when arranging our wedding. “Am I wrong to stand my ground on this issue?”My question is, why the hell would the ex want to be there? I don’t detest any of my ex-partners, but I don’t want to talk to them on the phone. I’d never contemplate attending their wedding.” Shekkie Johansen / Reddit

“At our wedding, one of my exes served as my husband’s best man. It wasn’t weird because we split as friends, knowing we weren’t a good match. He introduced me to my husband. It was not unusual for any of us. It’s your wedding, therefore you can invite or not invite anybody you choose. Consider the impact you may be having on your cousin’s relationship. It appears that you are not as comfortable with her dating your ex as you claim.” WinchestersandGrace / Reddit

“First, excellent on you for not making a big deal about the fact that they are dating, as many people would. You don’t get to choose who they date. However, you do have a say in who is invited to your wedding. It would be unacceptable to have your ex present, especially if he is with your cousin. I agree that you should not invite your relative.” QuesoDelDiablos on Reddit.