Following a furious dispute with her fiancé, a lady in a five-year relationship resorted to the online community for support. The argument began over money, and it left her wondering the mechanics of their relationship.The 32-year-old lady, identified as Original Poster (OP), said that she and her 35-year-old partner got engaged after five years of dating. After the proposal, the couple scheduled their wedding for May 2025.
OP reveals that her grandma and grandfather were “very successful” and held high-paying jobs for the most of their life. So, naturally, the OP was left with a “hugely generous” sum of money. However, this is where the trouble started. “When I told my fiancé about the news, he was ecstatic, much more than I expected. I went along with it and shrugged it off until later in the day, when I heard him on the game with his friends saying, “I can pay off my credit card with that money, mate!”
We can finally have that lads’ vacation we’ve been planned, ay?’ and giggling,” OP stated in her article. She said, “I walked into the room and asked, ‘What money?'” He looked at me funny and said, ‘From your nan, darling.'” The wife stated that she “immediately exploded on him” and informed him that he would not pay anything off without her approval, and that he would certainly not use the money to pay for a boys’ vacation.
“‘It’s not your money to have, it’s written to me from MY nanna, it’s not for you,'” OP stated that she told her fiancé.This soon escalated into a shouting match, at which time OP stated that she exited the room unhappy. The fiancé eventually finished his game and came out to reprimand her in the kitchen, saying, “We are getting married, and you will become my financial burden.
Any money you take in is mine as well. It was quite selfish of you to make a fool of me in front of my friends and give them false hope of a vacation.” In her article, the woman stated that she left the house without saying anything and went to stay at a friend’s house. She ended by wondering if she was being an a*****e. Following her message, the woman received a flood of sympathy and solidarity from other online users.”
Okay, he’s showed you that he considers you a burden and intends to spend money that isn’t his on his ‘boys’. And he’s yelling at you because you won’t go along with his plans. “You’re crazy if you actually marry him,” one user wrote. Another added: “Do you really want to marry this guy? There are two difficulties. 1. He felt he was entitled to the money. 2. He felt he could spend money on something discretionary that did not include you. Pt. 2 is the biggest difficulty.”
This user responded with: “Stop the wedding.” Don’t marry this guy. First, he has never paid off his credit card debt. Living beyond his means is a habit. Second, who owns what, and who owns what you have? Oh, honey, NO. Third, what about the rage? Are you seeing yourself as a ‘burden’ on him in the relationship, based on entitlement or DARVO? This individual has all of the standard narcissistic characteristics.”
They went on to say, “Your grandparents’ last present to you was not just money, but also the knowledge of who this individual truly is underneath. No character, abusive, entitled, and parasitic. Run.”