Every bride wishes to have the ideal wedding day. While you can have some control over certain aspects of your wedding, such as the dress, venue, cuisine, and so on. You can’t always ensure that everything will proceed as planned. However, this woman had a plan in place to ensure a smooth wedding day. However, she quickly finds that not everyone sees the problem the same way. Continue reading to learn more.
A bride-to-be turned to Reddit to ask a question she was thinking about: am I being unreasonable? She posted about her position on the popular forum ‘AITAH’, which stands for Am I The Asshole. A bride-to-be said that she and her fiance distributed a list of guidelines to the wedding guests and quickly began receiving cancellations. Before she began her post, she stated that before anyone concluded she was ‘bridezilla’ imposing these restrictions against her fiance’s will, she wanted to make it clear that he had equally contributed to the regulations and was enthusiastically in support of all of them.
She then went on to explain each rule individually. The couple desired a ‘unpluggled ceremony.’ Guests were not permitted to have phones with them during the ceremony or the subsequent meal, unless there was a ‘major’ emergency. While guests understood that no phones were allowed during the ceremony, many felt the prohibition on using phones during supper to be overly strict.
She stated that some people who were leaving their children at home claimed they needed phones to check on their children, but she had informed them that if she had to make an exception for them, she would have to do it for everyone. She wrote, “Checking with your children is not an emergency. If something significant happens, you will be notified.”
The pair also followed a rigid color scheme and dress code. Everyone was asked to wear black, with women wearing dresses and men wearing tuxedos. There were no exceptions to this rule. Her aunt, who had lost her husband and spent time in black while grieving, had ultimately returned to a more colorful wardrobe, and she was no exception. Even she admitted that dark garments made her unhappy.
Her future sister-in-law, who suffers body dysmorphia, also had concerns with the clothing code because she always wore slacks to feel more at ease with her body; no exceptions would be allowed for her either. They ordered the bridesmaid outfits months in advance and instructed their girls to maintain their weight, whether by eating less or more.
She stated her mother was furious about the rules and informed the bride her wedding was doomed from the start. Her bridesmaids have also threatened to pull out, and she has had wedding guests cancel at the last minute. Her maid of honor’s daughter was supposed to be their flower girl, but that wasn’t happening today. The bride requested that the flower girl be left in a hotel with a babysitter during the ceremony, but the maid of honor declined and planned to leave her kid with her mother because the wedding site is a four-hour drive away.
Even with her prelude and warning, folks continued to believe she and her fiance were being completely unreasonable and were unquestionably ‘assholes.’ Many individuals pointed out that, while weddings can be tailored to the couple’s preferences, people were not required to follow their rules and had the freedom to drop out of their wedding.