So this is a long one, but I need some advice. Growing up, I never appreciated my stepfather. I felt ashamed of his employment as a cleaner.He worked tirelessly to support us. Despite aspiring to be an architect, I had to work as a waiter to support myself. So, due to financial constraints, I decided to drop out of college. Years later, he gave me a folder that crushed my heart. When I opened it, I was surprised to discover a college fund under my name. He had been covertly saving for years!

I was infuriated. I confronted him, yelling: “Why didn’t you tell me? “I could have gone to college.” He gave me a sorrowful smile and said, “I didn’t want to pressure you.” “I wanted you to take your own path.” I know it sounds like a Hallmark movie, but it is not. I’m furious today because dad didn’t tell me about the money, and I squandered years working in dead-end jobs. He claims it was my choice, but he denied me the opportunity.

He is still cleaning, and I am still a waitress. He is cheerful and pleased, whilst I am angry and resentful. I’m so irritated that I’m considering not accepting the money. Am I wrong to feel this way? Am I being unreasonable? I need to know. I am so conflicted.