To provide background, my regular weight ranges from 128 to 132 pounds. This is the weight at which I feel most healthy and strong. I was quite anxious a few months ago and didn’t eat enough.

I’d only have time to grab a granola bar before heading to dance rehearsal for 2-4 hours each evening. We were preparing for Nationals, and I should have consumed many more calories than I was burning.

I unexpectedly lost 16 pounds in three weeks and weighed 114 pounds. I looked quite thin, and after the adrenaline of Nationals had worn off, I felt really weak and queasy. My doctor was concerned and put me on a food plan to get some healthy fats and proteins into my body.

My partner at the time noticed my weight loss and complemented my slender body. I felt uncomfortable with his comment, but I figured he was trying to be friendly and thought I was attempting to reduce weight. After all, he had no idea I had been sick from it.

But when I told him I was genuinely underweight and sick from the sudden weight loss, he dismissed my health worries and doubled down, saying, “Well, I like you this way. “You look sexy.” I was astonished and disappointed when he ignored my health because he believes that being underweight is “sexy.”

I tried again to explain that I was genuinely sick, but he refused to listen. I broke up with him a few days later. It’s been a couple months, and he still hasn’t apologized, but he did message me to say that I was overreacting and that he was simply complementing me. Was I overreacting by breaking up over this?

PS: I’m fortunate to be back in my healthy weight range and feeling lot better.