I have never been engaged. But I’ve attempted to convince a lot of guys to be exclusive with me, I’ve issued a lot of ultimatums, and I’ve referred to men as my boyfriend simply because they uploaded a photo of us together on the internet. Isn’t it odd that none of my romances resulted in marriage? Probably not. I fantasize that all of my relationships will end in marriage. Hell, I imagine that every of my Bumble swipes will result in marriage.
I even fantasize about babies with men I had extended eye contact with at the coffee shop. But in real relationships, how can you know if you’re simply having a fling or if the guy you’re with is likely to be the one you marry? I asked Karenna Alexander, NYC’s #1 love guru and matchmaker, to break down the five most likely signals that you’ll marry your spouse.
You spend the weekends together. Unless your boyfriend is employed or has children from another relationship, he will most likely spend date night — Saturday — with you. “When a guy really likes a lady and wants to marry her, he rarely, if ever, skips Saturday nights. “He wants to be with his dream girl on that night,” Alexander explains. “Hanging out with his buddies or carousing is just not important to him because he sees a future with you.”
He discusses the future with you. If he doesn’t suggest a future together, he probably doesn’t see one with you in it. Ouch, but true. Alexander says, “He might not come out and say he’s certainly going to ask the question. But he discusses the future with you—where he wants to live, the style of house he wants to live in, how many children he wants to have, and so on.”
So, if a guy wants to be with you, he will make it clear. He romanticizes you. No, Tyga doesn’t have to buy Kylie Jenner a Ferrari on a daily basis. “Even simple gifts, such as flowers and love poems, signal that a guy is interested in you and wants to stay with you long-term. “When a guy has one foot out the door, he doesn’t feel like giving you romantic gifts,” Alexander says.
It is now my life’s desire to convince a guy to write me a love poem. You’re familiar with his inner group. Have you ever dated someone and never met his family or friends? Unless he has no family or friends, this is not a good sign. Actually, having no relatives or friends is also a poor indicator, in my opinion. Alexander discusses why meeting with his inner circle is so crucial.
When a man sincerely likes a lady and hopes to have a long-term relationship with her, he wants his long-time friends and loved ones to meet his new love. He is proud of her and wishes to show her off. When a guy is unsure whether he wants to stay with someone long-term, he puts this off, sometimes forever.
Your dates are all on him.
According to Alexander, the man should pay. “This is not about the money, but it’s a great indicator of whether a guy is really in it for the long haul,” she tells me. A man who sets down the cheque appears to be thinking about the future. She continues: A man who expects a woman to pay for her dates with him, or to divide the dates, is unlikely to be interested in marriage.
He expects her to divide the cost of the date, like he would with his best buddy. When a guy wants to marry you and sees a long-term future for you, he wants to take care of you in every way, including paying for dates. So, if you want to know if your partner is about to propose, look for these indicators. And if you still haven’t received any love notes or met your boo’s BFF, you might not be ready for marriage just yet.