What is the first thing you notice when you meet someone new? Everyone’s response is unique. While some people are great at reading body language, others place more emphasis on the initial conversation they have with someone. When it comes down to it, though, what stands out most to someone is entirely reliant on the individual, as does what attracts people to one other.

So, if you’re wondering what things guys notice when they meet you for the first time, the answer differs.”While physical attraction is important… there are other important characteristics and when first meeting,” says Dr. Gary Brown, a relationship specialist and psychotherapist. “A few that are pretty much universal are: general happiness and kindness to others, confidence without being arrogant, passionate… and a sense of humor.”

That being said, when meeting new people, individuals search for a variety of attributes, and it’s frequently the full package — flaws and all — that makes us seem most honest, and hence easiest to connect with. Although you should never change who you are based on other people’s opinions, here’s what a few men had to say about what they initially observed in women’s personalities when they met them, and some of their comments were, to say the least, unexpected.

1: Sense Of Humor 2: Her Relationship With Money 3: Thoughtfulness 4: Confidence 5: Charisma 6: Spontaneity 7: Assertiveness 8: Humbleness 9: Intellect