Divorce is an emotionally difficult experience, and well-meaning comments can sometimes do more harm than good. Here’s a guide on what *not* to say to a divorced woman and better alternatives.

1. “I never liked him anyway.” This dismisses her past feelings. Instead, say, “I’m here for you.” 2. “You’re better off without him.” Divorce is complex, and she may feel mixed emotions. Ask, “How are you feeling?”

3. “At least you’re free now!” Freedom may not match her feelings. Offer, “Do you need anything?” 4. “When are you going to start dating again?” Pushing her to move on can be insensitive. Say, “Take your time.”

5. “What did you do wrong?” Avoid blame. Instead, express, “How can I support you?” 6. “You must be lonely.” Don’t assume loneliness. Try, “How are you spending your time?”

7. “What about the kids?” This may add pressure. Say, “Let me know how I can help.” 8. “You should have tried harder.” This minimizes her struggles. Say, “I trust you made the right decision.”

9. “I know exactly how you feel.” Everyone’s divorce is unique. Say, “I’m here to listen.” 10. “You’ll find someone else.” Shift focus to her well-being. Say, “Take your time to focus on yourself.”