It is not easy to fulfill everyone’s expectations, especially for a woman. A woman’s looks and body are heavily scrutinized by everyone. She is expected to fit the norms of an ideal body type. But even if a woman succeeds in achieving these ideals, there is every chance that there will be someone who will be left less or not pleased at all!
Going to a family reunion when you’re not tall, thin, or talented is the worst. If you’re self-conscious about your perceived defects, others will feast on them like vultures on a carcass. It’s as though seeing you confused and upset brings them satisfaction. These sneers and snarky remarks will follow you throughout your life, and it will be difficult to let them go.
As a result of all of this, the road to self-acceptance is long and winding. This path becomes less difficult if you have someone on your side reminding you that you’re perfect just the way you are.
For a lot of us, that person is our partner, but there are women who suffer, even in their own homes, because their partners keep reminding them how they’re just not good enough. If your husband is someone who keeps telling you that you need to work on improving yourself physically, instead of accepting you, just the way you are, then it’s time to drop him from your life.
See, it’s one thing to stay fit, it’s essential. If you and your husband hit the gym or go to a class to burn some calories, then that’s absolutely okay, but if your husband pushes you to take extreme steps, like work out every single day and watch what you eat, then I’m sorry, that man has no place in your life.
Yes, I understand that we count on our husbands to validate us, to tell us that we look stunning in that outfit we’re too hesitant to wear or to shower us with compliments. This need is because we’ve been shamed so much growing up that it’s so hard to be confident in our own skin. But, it doesn’t always have to be that way.
Your confidence may be built through time, and it will only improve if you have a supportive partner, because every woman deserves to be loved and cuddled, regardless of her size or the clothes she wears.
There’s so much we can do as women that has nothing to do with our size. Remember that you deserve to be with someone that accepts you for who you are!