My husband’s daughter from his prior marriage lives with us. He arranged for her to spend half a month with us through a court order. She now spends half the month with us and half with her mother. My husband adores his kid; he spoils her and indulges all of her desires. I don’t mind; in fact, I heartily support him.When I get home from work, I find his ex-wife at our house.

She ignored me for the first time, didn’t meet me, and didn’t say goodbye. She whispered something under her breath the second time and sat in our kitchen for an hour. I was compelled to stay in another room and was unable to make dinner. It’s upsetting to have her in our home, especially when she acts like she’s the hostess. I’ve never spoken to her; when she comes to pick up her daughter, my husband brings her to her.

She has caused him a great deal of pain; she is not a kind person.My husband likewise avoids communicating with her. I told him about it, and he listened, shrugged his shoulders, and indicated that while the situation is terrible, he has no intention of forbidding her anything. His kid spends half the month with her, and if she wants to talk to her more, she may pick her up from school and take her somewhere.

After all, she doesn’t have to stay at our house all the time. I don’t want to talk to her, and discussing this with a ten-year-old is inappropriate. I don’t want to damage the girl or play the evil stepmother. But her presence in my home makes me uneasy, and given my position, I can’t ignore that. I spoke with my husband once again, and he simply does not want to be associated with her. So, how should I proceed? I’m not required to accept her presence in my home.