When I started out to find out what individuals think are the most undesirable attributes in a spouse, I made it clear that this wasn’t about physical aesthetics, because there’s no need for that kind of negativity here, or elsewhere. Furthermore, they are not what comes to mind when we consider moments when someone we were interested in was no longer appealing to us.

This essay was written to inform, not to berate, people, and to list the attributes that men and women find most ugly in order to better understand the traits that we may have that our significant others or potential significant others do not. Who knows, these attributes may be preventing you from having true love or relationship. After putting out a request for answers on the subject, I was astonished to discover that many more women than males wanted to offer their thoughts. These women genuinely wanted to communicate the things they dislike!

After considering all of the replies I received, ranging from lack of compassion to narcissism, I realized that the unappealing attributes people expressed could apply to anyone, regardless of gender. Here are the most unappealing personality traits:Narcissists irritate me to no end. Women who are egotistical, obsessed with themselves and their problems, and who constantly generate drama around their identity.

When they have an issue, they rush to you, phone you, and act like they’re your “best friend.” When you’re the one with the problem, they act as if it’s nothing and encourage you to “move on and forget it.” 2. Excessive Drama!One of the most unappealing characteristics I dislike is a gossipy, foul-mouthed lady who disparages other women. If you have nothing positive to say about someone, close thy trap!

2. Excessive Drama! One of the most unappealing characteristics I dislike is a gossipy, foul-mouthed lady who disparages other women. If you have nothing positive to say about someone, close thy trap 3. Vague Interests. Lack of interest in intellectual topics.

4. A Preference for Playing Video Games. Even the slightest bit of hard to get. The ‘hard next’ is a huge turn off for most decent males. That is, if a female is not plainly interested in us from the start, we will go on.