“My wife and I bought a four-bedroom house in Pennsylvania for my kid. Our son attended college in Pennsylvania and desired to remain in the area. So we bought the house as a secondary residence; we live in New Jersey and commute to Manhattan for work. We reasoned that he would have a place to live and that we could pay him visits and spend quality time together.
We pay the taxes and house services/maintenance, and our son pays for groceries and house utilities. For a few years, everything was well until our son met a girl and they started dating. We met her, and she appeared to be pleasant. She moves in with our son after they announce their engagement. Now comes the difficult part: the wedding!!! My son and daughter, as well as our son’s fiancée and her parents and sisters, attend a small get-to-know-you BBQ at the PA house.
My wife, daughter, and fiancé, as well as her mother, sisters, and my son, appear to be getting along nicely. My wife and children come out a few minutes later, distraught. They come over and inform me that we are leaving and returning to NJ. I’m trying to figure out what happened. When we returned to NJ and they had calmed down, they informed me that our son and his fiancée, as well as her family, do not want us to attend the wedding.
“We’re not their kind of people,” someone told me. I was furious, so I called my son and asked him what was going on. He informs me that her family thinks we’re not good enough and will embarrass them at a family wedding, so we’re all not invited. I gave myself a week to calm down before driving back to the PA house, where the new future in-laws and the fiancé are staying. They appear to have all moved inside the residence.
They question why I’m there, and I tell them that because we weren’t invited to the wedding, I came over to see my kid. They advised me to leave their home. I lost it and told them they had 30 days to leave. Tell my son that I’m selling the house and that he can find another place to live with all of you. I go to a local realtor and list the house for sale.
They contacted my son at work and informed him of what I said.
They thought he owned the house. When he calls and asks why I’m selling his house, I tell him that I paid for it, as well as the taxes and that it is mine. He was living there for free, but he had to leave because he didn’t want us in his new life. I tell him the same thing I told his prospective in-laws: they have 30 days to leave or I’ll hire a lawyer to have them evicted.
Am I the AH for having such a strong stand on this? He is my son, but his in-laws seem to have taken over and we are no longer counted.”Who, in this case, do you believe went too far? Please let us know, and feel free to forward this to your family and friends to see what they think.