Do you ever wonder what your man is thinking when he sees another woman? Maybe it happened a few times? Perhaps it makes you feel jealous and insecure, which is why you want to know what’s going on in his thoughts. This is a difficult scenario, which is why I produced this advice. Before I go any further into the ogling behavior, consider the following scenario: You and your husband are seated in a cafe or restaurant, having a fantastic time. You laugh, you drink, you eat, and everything appears to be perfect.

Then a woman enters the premises (or goes by your table) and you notice your man raising his head to observe her from head to toe. You immediately feel overwhelmed, bewildered, insecure, and betrayed. You begin to ask yourself questions such as: Is he thinking she’s more lovely and appealing than I am? Is he interested in being with her? What if he’s already had another relationship?

When a beautiful woman goes by, men can’t help but notice. They can’t help but react in this way, being drawn to women with specific characteristics. It’s in their blood. Looking at other ladies is perfectly normal for men. It’s also very typical for women to experience that visceral, emotional reaction when they notice their spouse looking at them. It’s natural to wonder why men appear the way they do and what the look represents.

Let me clarify… What “the look” means: He finds her physically appealing. A chemical reaction occurred in his brain when he saw her. Neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin were released, causing him to experience an involuntary surge of pleasure. In a very innocuous and innocent sense, a part of him wants her or wonders what it would be like to be with her.

Just as you may be sexually attracted to some of your favorite TV personalities and wonder what it might be like… But you wouldn’t do anything about it. He might be interested in her as a sexual partner in an alternate reality when he is unmarried and unattached. Simply simply, his gaze has nothing to do with you. There are many lovely things in the world – flowers and sunsets, amazing works of art – but none more beautiful than the feminine body.

When your man admires a painting or sculpture, it doesn’t take anything away from you. When he stares at another lady, it does not reduce his feelings for you. When there is a problem. While it is natural for men to notice other women, to adore and fantasize about them, there is a boundary that a mature and dedicated guy will not pass. Staring is not the same as looking, and it can be painful, awkward, and insulting.

I can’t help myself when I see an attractive woman, as I’ve previously discovered. But after the moment passes, I swiftly return my focus to the love of my life, the lady to whom I am devoted. Red flags include looking, inappropriate comments, touching, flirting, and (obviously) chtng. This type of behavior suggests that a man is either not mature enough to control himself, or that he does not respect you (or women in general) or care enough about you to control his urges. In any case, it does not auger well for the future of your union…