A woman found out her husband bought Christmas presents for his friends and family totaling over $5000. However, she was taken aback to discover that the gift he had chosen for her held no greater significance than the others. A married woman and her spouse were enjoying their first Christmas together. They had been dating for three years, and they had a custom of buying and giving gifts individually.
The woman accidentally came across her husband’s Christmas list while sorting through some stuff at home. Curious, she picked it up to read. She couldn’t help but feel wounded when she learned what her spouse had planned for Christmas. She asked if her feelings were inappropriate on Reddit. Presents for his friends and extended family were first on her husband’s list of priorities.
Among the more extravagant presents he purchased were a $900 fitness gear for a friend, a $250 bracelet for his sister-in-law, and a $600 watch for a coworker. The woman was excited to find out what she would be getting for Christmas after witnessing the amount of attention he put into his gifts for other people. She became agitated, though, when her name was called on the list.
Rather than purchasing an ostentatious item like the others on his list, he gave her a $20 set of stainless steel kitchen spoons. The woman was in disbelief and was unable to ignore the inward hurt she was experiencing. She clarified, “I had a confrontation with him about this because I was too shocked to ignore it.” Her husband said he could give anything he wanted because he paid for the gifts with his own money.
The woman maintained that his lack of consideration had made her feel insulted. Additionally, her spouse contended that she had to value a gift no matter how much it costs. Her husband was furious at the exchange. The woman thought her husband didn’t value her as much as she did, therefore she too found it difficult to move past the incident.She would get him his favorite shoes or gaming accessories even though they were still dating. In the end, the guy called his wife a “spoiled brat, ungrateful person.”
He even went so far as to urge her to put aside her conceit and accept the Christmas present she was getting. The husband believed his wife was being foolish, so he stopped talking to her. The woman, torn and unsure of what to do, looked for advice on Reddit. She was surprised to hear the same thing from everyone: her spouse didn’t treat her with the same respect as he did his buddies. “I would be SERIOUSLY weirded out if one of my coworkers spent so much more on me than on their own spouse,” someone wrote.
I would feel quite uncomfortable if my BIL were to give me a $250 bracelet. I would be horrified if you included in the fact that he only paid $20 for spoons for his wife,” someone another said. Some even went so far as to caution the woman that there was cause for divorce due to her husband’s characteristics. “Giving presents to anyone other than your significant other and expecting them to reciprocate is a serious red flag. It’s quite impolite,” someone commented.
If you had been the woman, how would you have handled the situation? What say you, about her confronting her husband about his Christmas list?