We can become attracted to folks who are plain bad for us. Regardless of how poorly they treat us, we keep falling for them. What makes these people so attractive? Their charisma continues to sweep us off our feet, and their apologies and vows never cease to sound genuine. Even when you leave, the need to return to them is tremendous. Here are the top five reasons why it’s never worth returning to a toxic relationship.

1. You, too, must learn to move on. If they’ve already moved on or are drowning their sorrows in video games, why shouldn’t you do the same? They have deeply harmed you, but you still want to return to the relationship. This is because it feels good to return to what is familiar. But do not fall into this trap. It’s highly likely that your old behaviors and patterns will return, and you’ll be devastated again.

2. They will not change. They vow that they have changed, and you believe yourself that things will be different this time. However, you are aware that things will most likely remain unchanged. People rarely change. Instead of turning a blind eye and hoping for the best, advocate for yourself and learn to say no. Your optimism will do little to improve the situation, and you will find yourself constantly making excuses for their actions.

3. They’ll hurt you again. They’ve done it before, and there’s a good possibility they will do it again. This is why you will never be happy or at peace in a relationship that has been through this. You also need to be pleased with yourself initially. You cannot expect them to come along and unbreak you and get you back on your feet. This is something you must go through alone.

4. You deserve better. We should never settle for less than what we deserve. After being in a toxic relationship, people frequently believe that they deserve to be treated harshly. Furthermore, they begin to blame themselves for all of the problems in their relationship. However, in order to fully break free from someone who is causing you harm, you must learn to quit blaming yourself. Try to understand that you do not have to endure someone’s mistreatment of you. This can help you find closure and ensure that the next time you are with someone who treats you well.

5. You will never be a priority. Your needs and feelings will always come second to theirs. Your connection will always come second, and the other person will have little time to ‘deal’ with you. Instead of feeling like a buddy or companion, you’ll always feel like a burden. Your relationship will exist just to satisfy the other person’s ego and desires, while you disregard your own damaged sentiments. They will treat you as if your wants and decisions are irrelevant.