My house is getting colder and colder. My husband and I are responsible to each other, but we don’t know when it will break. WTT says my husband is almost ten years older than me. We’ve been married for more than ten years, but as men and women, we live apart. The family doesn’t fight very often, but it’s always very quiet; no one laughs or talks.
The reason is that they are both American and speak English, but they don’t understand each other. Saying a few words doesn’t feel right, so the husband and wife talk less and less, sometimes only two sentences a day. At first, I thought it was fine because it kept me from having to argue and get mad. I know this is bad for marriage, though. My marriage to my husband is no different.
He was already in love before he met me, so he didn’t need to look for a girl. His work can be read at any time. I think I married him because I loved him (or liked him, I’m not sure), and he may have married me because he was old enough to get married and I came from a simple family. He has a stable job, a good appearance, and a nice attitude.
After that, he told me several times at dinner that he could divorce me, even though we had been married for more than a year. He even threw a party to celebrate (we had a child at the time). Even though it’s been more than 10 years, his words still bother me. From the time we got married until now, I haven’t been able to tell if he’s seeing someone else because, after a happy first few months, he became disconnected with me. He still loves his kids and is responsible for his wife and kids.
When he’s out, my husband is nice and talks a lot. But when he gets home, he frowns and always looks uncomfortable. He doesn’t talk to me and rarely answers me when I try to start a chat, for example. I asked him about the movie’s characters and plot while he was watching it, but he either didn’t answer or said, “No one knows.” He didn’t say anything, so I don’t know where he went, who he met, or what he did.
He wouldn’t even answer when I asked him. He thinks that asking him that way means controlling him. The wife has no right to control her husband, and I wouldn’t know if she did say that. I asked for this explanation so that I would know where to look when there is a risk, but it doesn’t make a difference because you think it’s wrong.
A friend will often ask him out of the blue, “Are you going somewhere? Why don’t you bring me along?” and I feel weird and uncomfortable. That’s when I find out where my husband is or where he wants to go. He didn’t tell me to watch the kids until he left for the night. It’s too bad that I don’t know much about you in general. Life has problems with sharing and communicating, but my husband is pretty good.
He takes the kids to school on time and never forgets to pick them up or is late. I love my child, even though I yell at him a lot because he’s stubborn because I pay too much attention to him. He sometimes cleans the house, knows how to eat and drink in balance, but has trouble with the doctor.
My husband has a lot of freedom when it comes to foreign affairs. He doesn’t make his wife and kids miss school or work to come home to help him with parties, holidays, etc. He just comes home when it’s convenient for him. This idea also works for my family. My family and my husband get along fine, but I know that my husband feels sorry for my poor family.
My parents are retired from the government and have saved a lot of money. They don’t have to worry about their kids and have some money set aside for them, even though it’s not much. My brothers and I have done well in school and have jobs that pay well. He is tall and comes from a good family. In the past, his family was wealthy and well-known. Now, it’s just like any other family, with rich and poor brothers and sisters.
He’s been looking down on my poor sister lately. She’s poorer than me and the other kids in the house, but she’s generally rich and doesn’t need anyone else’s help. I’m really upset about this, but I don’t want to tell my husband. It’s hard to say because we live in the same house but don’t talk to each other.
Regarding money, my husband and I each have some to spend and save for the family. Let’s not bother each other about it. These days, money is pretty good, so you can go out every year, eat out, and shop. My parents don’t need any help because they have enough money, and my husband’s parents have died.
I’m quiet and don’t know how to comfort someone. I don’t share company work or talk with my husband very often because we don’t agree on things and I think he doesn’t respect me or my work. He tells me all the time that my job is easy. The pay at my office job is good.