When two people from widely different backgrounds fall in love, navigating their worlds can be stressful. Meghan, a young woman about to be married, finds herself in such a scenario. She was concerned that her fiancé’s less fortunate family would not fit into the wedding she had planned. In an attempt to fix this, she devised a solution that, regrettably, worsened the situation. Here’s her story.

Instead of establishing severe standards, encourage variation within your families. Instead of requiring certain dress standards or automobile rentals, encourage everyone to express themselves freely. By embracing the distinctiveness of each family, you can create a wedding ambiance that celebrates both your cultured background and your fiancé’s humble roots.

Start an open and honest conversation with your fiancé’s family to understand the intentions behind your instructions. Explain that your goal is not to upset or demean people, but to create a unified and pleasant environment for your special day. Be open to their feedback and concerns, and be willing to negotiate and modify your requirements accordingly.