I never understood why people cheated. I get why they want to cheat, but I don’t understand why they really do it. It never ends well for anyone involved, whether you’re the one being cheated on, the one doing the cheating, or the person being used to cheat. In the end, almost everyone loses. There are no valid reasons to cheat. And the best option—not to cheat—is always available. It isn’t as if someone is holding a gun to your head and telling you that if you don’t cheat on the person you love, you will die. If this happens to you, it is perfectly acceptable to cheat.

Aside from that, no excuses. Cheating is wrong. It was always wrong and will be. But you already know this. What you may not be aware of is that there are two categories of cheaters: those who are aware that they are doing something wrong but choose to continue doing so, and those who are unaware that they are doing anything wrong. Even people who believe that cheating is wrong will find ways to rationalize their behavior. Similarly, people’s reasons for cheating vary. Because of social standards and expectations, men are more likely to cheat than women.

Not to argue that many women do not cheat; they undoubtedly do, but men do it more frequently. Men often have more sexual partners than women, therefore it stands to reason that they cheat more frequently. Of course, as our culture progresses and women become more openly sexual (and their sexuality is accepted by everyone else), the imbalance will gradually fade. But for the purposes of this article, I’m going to concentrate on guys and their motivations for cheating on their girlfriends. So, why do men cheat on their women.

1. Because they are scumbags. There are more scumbags than good ones. Some guys enjoy using women. They’ll say whatever women want to hear. They’ll make some guarantees. They will make them feel unique. They’ll make them feel as though they care. In truth, they simply want to keep you around for some regular ass. They sleep around with different ladies each week. Certain weeks are better than others. I get how this sounds, but it is exactly how these guys are thinking. Scumbags are experts of disguise, making it impossible to distinguish between them and average people.

They must be this way in order for you to remain unaware for as long as possible. The saddest part is that when you’re grieving and heartbroken, they carry on with their lives as if nothing happened. 2. Because they are insecure. Some guys aren’t outright scumbags; they’re simply really insecure. So it’s not like he doesn’t care about you. Yes, he does. He’s just so terrified of losing you — so afraid that you’ll cheat on him — that he decides to take the initiative.

So foolish. But I’ve seen this type of thing happen numerous times. “I am too insecure to make this relationship work, therefore I am going to ruin it. This way, I come out on top. Like I’m not in pain on the inside. As if I am not lost, bewildered, and ashamed of myself.” 3. Because they do not realize how valuable what they have is.
Most individuals, if not all of them, struggle to recognize how fortunate they are. Although it is not a good explanation, being young and inexperienced frequently causes people to cheat.

They don’t really comprehend what they’ve discovered, believing that they’ll be able to find something equally wonderful, if not better, on the other side of the fence. I feel sorry for these folks… They’re screwing themselves over, not someone else. I understand what it’s like to let go of someone you would never, ever let go of. It’s torturous. I did not even cheat on her.

Imagine cheating on the lady you love just to learn that you’ll never be able to move on and will never have her again. How could she turn back to you after what you did to her? As I already stated, I feel horrible for these individuals. 4. Because they are weak. Men are quite feeble. I blame the fact that we have it a lot easier than women. We get better jobs. We don’t need to give birth. We do not have to struggle in the same way that women do. As a result, we will never have to learn to fight in the same way as women.

Men may be physically strong, but they are intellectually weak. They lack self-control, particularly when it comes to women. It’s as if a switch is flicked every time blood flow switches to the secondary “head.” I understand that it is not an excuse, but he may have cheated on you because he is weak, not because he does not love you. The question you need to ask yourself is if you want a weak man as a companion.

5. Because they lack the courage to acknowledge they have fallen out of love. Unfortunately, not all love endures. Some love never grows strong enough to withstand the passage of time. The hardest aspect is that, while love fades for one person, it grows for another. Love is an extremely psychologically complex thing. I’ve covered it extensively in previous pieces, so I won’t go into detail here.

Simply recognize that you cannot force someone to love you. You cannot ask someone else to love you. And you certainly cannot beg someone to love you. Love is a decision. If he chooses not to love you, accept it and go on. Of course, it would have been preferable if he had told you instead of cheating on you, but you are probably better off because he did. When it comes to closure, a small amount of hatred can go a long way.