My in-laws show up uninvited. They stay for several hours, consume our food, and then leave about 2 or 3 in the morning. My husband says, “You should be nice to them; they helped us buy the house.” Recently, I began heading out as soon as they arrived. Yesterday, I got home early. My spouse paled, and my mother-in-law began laughing as soon as she spotted me.

I walked into the living room and was shocked to discover my husband’s four young nephews running around, destroying our beautiful couch and playing with watercolors on my carpet. I was enraged; my house felt like a kindergarten. My husband turned to me and said, “I would have made sure to clean everything up before you came, but you returned early tonight.”

My husband still believes that we owe his parents money because they assisted us, so our home is now theirs. I can’t handle it anymore. Am I being impolite, or am I justified to feel this way?