Chantal hoped her spouse would support and protect her, especially during times of shame. When she was unexpectedly uninvited to a wedding, her husband decided to go alone. The unexpected explanation for her rejection has hurt Chantal, prompting her to seek our advice.

Chantal’s letter: My husband’s cousin is getting married. She lives abroad but is returning to have her wedding here with her entire family. Naturally, my husband and I were invited to the ceremony. However, three days before the wedding, my husband’s cousin contacted me and requested him not to bring me; he consented. My disappointment was compounded when my husband informed me that he still intended to travel, adding to my surprise at the sudden request. I questioned him, “Where is your pride?” Stand up for your wife!”

He looked at me, smirked, and said, “I’m going alone. You weren’t invited since the groom was your ex-fiancé. My cousin recently found out and is uncomfortable having you there.” I was startled. I was engaged several years before meeting my spouse, and we never brought up my ex because he is a part of the past. I still think the decision to not invite me was exceedingly nasty, and my husband should defend me instead of intending to attend. It isn’t my fault that his cousin is marrying my ex. I did not do anything improper here.