People have weird experiences from time to time. Enrique Iglesias once carried me as a baby through the airport. It happens. However, if your lover tells you too many stories like this, chances are they are lying. A person once told me that he read Blue Ivy Carter a bedtime story. I’m not joking. I believed it! It wasn’t until a few days later that I realized that no one outside the Knowles-Carter circle could possibly tell Blue Ivy a bedtime tale.
Love causes you to look through rose-colored glasses. Make sure to use your common sense. If someone claims to have climbed Mount Everest seven times, do not believe them. No one has ever done that. Believe it or not, some people will tell you these insane lies repeatedly until you believe they’re the best. It’s manipulation, and they’ll hold to their story so firmly that you start to believe they’re talking the truth, despite the fact that their lies are completely obvious.
It should be simple to identify these liars, because they aren’t even decent liars. Sorry, not sorry. If you’ve been in relationships where your partners haven’t exactly been “Peter Kraus from The Bachelorette”-level fantastic, being dubious of their actions (especially when they’re acting suspicious) is understandable.
Parikh agrees, but advises against letting your past experiences make you suspicious about everything your partner does. “If you’ve been burned in a relationship in the past, you can develop almost a hyper-vigilance where you become very afraid of being burned again, and because of that, often you’ll see signs or you’ll look for things and you become a little paranoid,” Parikh describes.
“It’s more important to be very calm and measured, and to really tap into that deep knowing inside of yourself, and the only way you can access that deep knowing is to really slow down and calm down, and really begin to focus inward.”
Consider the following example: trust your intuition. It is your most powerful tool! The deeper you know your partner, the more you’ll understand their ideals and how likely they are to try to deceive you. Your gut understands exactly what it is talking about. And if you discover you simply cannot trust your spouse, you may be better off without them.