Receiving a large sum of money can completely change your life. It’s no longer just about what you do with the money; it’s also about what everyone else believes you should do with it. When family members begin to seek a share of your good wealth, things can turn nasty. Is it selfish to hoard everything for yourself, or are they taking advantage? This is the type of situation that forces you to question everything.

Was the family taking advantage? Last month, I received a large bonus at work after closing a major deal, and everyone assumed I was their personal bank. My mother called me, excited, and said, “Now you can help us out! You should purchase us a bigger house and cover your sister’s tuition!” I was caught aback by their nerve and terminated the call. Later that day, my sister called me, in tears.

“Mom and Dad are furious, saying you’re being selfish,” she told me. “They’re telling everyone you’re keeping all the money to yourself.” I couldn’t believe it—after all these years of aiding them, they were making me the villain. It wasn’t like I intended to waste the money. My aims were to pay off my debt, invest in a small home, and save for the future. Sure, I wanted to give my family gifts, but with everything that has transpired, I’m not sure they deserve even a small portion of them. Now I’m stuck. I adore my family, but I also believe they are attempting to take advantage of me. Am I wrong to want to spend this money to ensure my future?