A woman posted on Reddit that her stepdaughter had requested her to get an abortion after learning she was pregnant. Her husband had concurred with his daughter. She added that her MIL instills animosity in the children for her.”My husband and I have been together for 14 years,” she said. He’s 9 years my senior and has two children from his prior marriage, ages 23 and 20. Despite my best efforts, I’ve never been able to bring a child to term. 1 miscarriage several year ago, near the beginning of our marriage, and nothing since.
There’s no rhyme or reason for it, and my husband and I have accepted that we will not expand our family. I was upset, but it is what it is, and things have been difficult financially in recent years, so I consoled myself that it is for the best.” “Until, SURPRISE, the week before my 35th birthday, I realize my period is late,” she continued. If you’ll excuse the cliche, I get a positive test and I’m overjoyed.
My husband is excited, but he wants us to wait before telling the rest of the family, which I understand. I’m aware of the statistics, and I don’t want to be bombarded with inquiries if I miscarry.”She said that her MIL is fostering a hostile environment for her children. “Both of my stepkids are what you might term a “failure to launch.” Neither has attended college and appears content to live at home or with my MIL, who is far more tolerant than I am.
My drama with my MIL could fill an entire r/JustNoMIL database, but I won’t dwell on it except to say that when I initially got engaged to my now-husband, I made it obvious that I loved the kids and wanted to be a wonderful mom. In revenge for the first (and only) occasion my stepson addressed me as “mom,” MIL launched a terror campaign against me, employing the children as a weapon.”
“So here I am, pregnant, happy, and planning a new chapter in our lives that I hadn’t dared to dream of in the last 5 or 6 years.” I allowed myself daydream a little and went to a baby store, where I cried a little and ended up buying a nice gray blanket and a tiny pair of shoes.” Her stepdaughter discovered the babyshoes in her purse one day and inquired as to whether she was pregnant. And she was dissatisfied with the scenario. “Later that day, I had to pick up my stepdaughter from work unexpectedly.”
Okay, alright, nothing to worry about. I pulled over to buy petrol, and when I came back out, she gave me the strangest look. “So…are you like…pregnant or something?” When I got out of the car, she started digging through the bag. I could have easily lied and said it was for a friend, but why would I want to? I asked her whether she could keep a secret, and she assured me that she could.”
“Needless to say, that wasn’t the most cheerful of reactions. “Oh,” she merely said. Wow. That’s, uh, strange,” and remained silent for the remainder of the ride home. To say I was disappointed would be an understatement, but SHE doesn’t have to be pleased about it. My husband and I can still be on our own. Even if no one else does, WE CAN.” Then her stepson showed her the conversation he and his sister had about how horrible it was that she was pregnant.
“A few days later, and everything is going swimmingly. I’m counting down the days till the scan, and everything appears to be in order…until my stepson decided to show me a conversation he had with my stepdaughter in which she was talking about how gross it is that I’m pregnant, how humiliating it is that everyone will think it’s her child when we’re out together (??) and just general…not very pleasant things.”
When her stepdaughter returned home, she wanted to chat to her about the baby who would be their siblings. Because she refused to speak, she eventually wrote, “YOU SHOULD JUST GET
She went up to her bedroom and cried because she was stunned. Her husband arrived, and she expected him to console her, but he said, “Perhaps we should think about it.”She had stated that she had left home to visit her folks.
“I told him over my dead body that a baby I’ve wanted for 14 fucking years was being aborted because of that.” IT’S A MIRACLE, NOT A CONTESTANT VOTED OFF THE ISLAND, BABY. I said a few more things I’m not proud of, put some clothes in a suitcase, and drove to my parents’ place. I’ve been here for three days and NOBODY has contacted me. There wasn’t a damned peep.” Here are some comments from other Redditors.
“When your SO calls, which he will, put it on the line.” He can choose to support your pregnancy and YOUR future family. If he refuses to support you or makes that stupid suggestion again, let him know you’re ready to leave. And if you leave, that’s the end of it. He has reared his dumb children into nonfunctional individuals who have been RUINED by your MIL and his ex. They are concerned about a new LO gaining prominence and money (think inheritance).
When their parents are no longer present, they will be unable to mature. Those young adults should be given a deadline to find work or face being booted out. They can also live with MIL. And they can kiss goodbye to seeing your LO.” “Probably thought it would never happen, so he stopped worrying about it.” Because he didn’t believe it was feasible, it was simple to appease OP by saying, “Yeah, it’s so sad we can’t have a baby.” But he was relived the entire time since he didn’t want to do it.”
“You mean your SO hasn’t even tried to contact you?” If that’s the case, this is the end of the road. I’d apologize, but why would you want such a gigantic piece of trash in your life? That is completely inexcusable, but at least the truth is now known. I’m sorry you’re going through this and being treated so poorly by these selfish jerks.”
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