As a big part of every relationship, finances are the things that every couple should discuss openly if they want to grow stronger together. Relationships are at their best when two people support each other and their goals – whether emotionally or financially. Such is not the case with today’s Redditor.
A user who has now deleted her account asked a question on Reddit’s AITA (Am I the A**hole?) subreddit. She asked the community whether she did the right thing or not by rejecting her boyfriend’s request to put her house on both their names. Here is the full story:
“I (22F) and my bf (25M) have been together for about 4 years. We started living together 2 years ago in an apartment and it’s been great! I recently got a new job and make around $80k a year and have been wanting to get out of our apartment and into a house. My boyfriend on the other hand doesn’t have a very good work ethic and has had about 8 different jobs in the 4 years we have been together, all making minimum wage. I brought up getting a house and he was totally on board with it so we started house hunting.”
“I have enough in my savings for a down payment and to cover all the closing cost but my boyfriend doesn’t have any savings and lives paycheck to paycheck. We currently split our rent 50/50 and he pays his bills (car payment, insurance, etc.) on his own and I pick up all the groceries, wifi, dog stuff. I’m totally fine with the fact I pick up more expenses since I make more than him and he’s never complained!
When we were shopping for a property, we kept the price range low enough that I could afford it on my own, allowing us to use his earrings as additional funds. “However, we decided to split the mortgage 50/50 (which would be less expensive than our existing rent), and I would pay the water, energy, and home insurance, among other things.”
I told him I wanted to be the only name on the house because we’re purchasing it with my savings and we’re not married or planning to be married any time soon. He’s now irritated with me because it’s meant to be “our house.” I’ve told him it’s our house, but it’ll be mine legally since I don’t want to risk $400,000. He stated that if it is only going to be my house, he should not be required to pay rent.
I disagree, it would be like paying rent anywhere else, and when/if we get married we will change the agreement. He hasn’t talked to me for 3 days now and I really don’t think I’m in the wrong here. So AITA?” What do you think about this woman’s story?